Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.

Ephesians 6:4 NASB

An article was published at rethinkingschools.org titled, Four-Year-Olds Discuss Love and Marriage. The author is an educator in the Chicago area who works with four-year-olds and observes their conversations. He or she (the gender is not identified) remarked that four-year-olds were discussing love and marriage, and while discussing this topic the kids seemed to parrot what they’ve heard from their parents and other adults. In the midst of the discussion, the educator makes clear that the goal is for the toddlers to consider whether there are more than two genders.

It is increasingly evident that this educator is not alone in their quest to preach nonsense, even to four-year-old’s. We know that many educators, psychologists, and others claim there are more, perhaps many more, genders and claim that binary thinking is neither correct nor acceptable.

We are no longer limited to male/female or girl/boy. A person can now choose their gender despite the science. The LGBTQ+ movement can be thanked for this nonsense, but the campaign would not go anywhere had it not been for the educators and media who support the absurdity.

According to the author of this article, binary thinking needs to be challenged to expand the minds of the little ones in his or her care. What does that mean exactly?

It does not mean critical thinking. One can debate how much critical thinking a four-year-old is capable of in the first place. The real goal of challenging the toddlers is the grooming the children, leading them to question their gender and permitting them to be whatever they want.

It is cloaked in the jargon of critical thinking, convincing the children to think outside the box of what it means to be male/female, boy/girl and what this thinking used to mean for love and marriage.

The movement to groom and brainwash small children should be a concern for any Christian parent that uses the public education system. Do not be fooled if you live in what is thought to be a conservative area with traditional values. The area may be conservative, but that does not mean the local school board nor the administrators of your local school are conservative.

When asked about love and marriage, one or more four-year-olds said that boys marry girls, and another said that girls could marry girls and boys could marry boys. There was disagreement among the four-year-old’s. This reveals something about what their parents believe and what they are seeing modeled at home.

The educator came to the rescue of those four-year-old’s influenced by parents who held traditional views. It was an opportunity to have a conversation and expand (change) the thinking of narrow-minded, bigoted four-year-old’s.

The educator explained to the tots that love is the issue, not gender. Since love was the issue, anyone could marry anyone. Never mind what parents might think and believe according to their religious faith.

Turning children over to the care of state educators and their allies comes with a price, and that price is the indoctrination of children to believe in an absurdity. Christian parents that take Ephesians 6:4 and other biblical passages seriously should be alarmed. You work hard to educate your precious four-year-old in the discipline and instruction of the Lord, and in public preschool, it’s all undone.

When the apostle says, “Fathers, bring them (your children) up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord”, he means, “Fathers, this is your priority, and your wife is your ally in getting it done.”

If that means home-schooling or private Christian school, make it happen, but it is imperative to make sure you are the primary disciple-maker in the lives of your little ones. Whether we want to be or not, we are in a spiritual fight for our children.

I regularly think of an elder friend who told me he had four little boys to disciple, which was his priority. His commitment to that has been apparent over time as the young boys have grown and matured. Parents must be on top of discipling their children because if they do not, someone else will.

Even a casual observer of public education must realize there is an agenda afoot. There has been for some time. It is just now increasingly overt as the Christian worldview is openly mocked, disparaged, and corrected when your four-old-innocently reflects the worldview of his or her Christian parents.

Dads — disciple your kids because if you don’t, someone else will, and you won’t like it.


Pastor Bruce Roeder

Bruce is an Elder/Pastor at the Vine Community Church in South Milwaukee, WI. He has an M.A. in Biblical Counseling and is certified with the ACBC and IABC. He is married to his wife Elizabeth of 48 years. They have one son, a wonderful daughter-in-law, and three great grandkids.